Thursday, January 27, 2011

A Love Letter Obituary

For those of you who didn't see this posted on Megan Smolenyak's Facebook page......have your tissues ready.

Mary Elizabeth Kittredge Jack

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Mary Elizabeth Kittredge Jack
March 23,1932 - January 9, 2011

Dear Mary,

I have rarely written you in the 54 years of our marriage. We were never apart that much. Your death on Sunday, January 9th, 2011, has, for awhile at least, changed that. Leukemia took nine years to alter our lives forever. I'm supposed to write an obituary but please, think of this as a love letter my dear. Others can think of it as a letter of remembrance or whatever they want.

We met, you remember, in a small restaurant at the corner of State and Congress. Introduced by friends, when they left we lingered on. The Longfellow restaurant is gone now, so is the building. We dated and often went to Wassons Grove for hamburgers and sat at their picnic tables under the pines. That's gone too.

It was the summer of 1955 and you had just graduated from three years at the Maine Medical School of Nursing. You were class president, second academically, and had aced your state Boards. You were an RN. I was just out of the Army having visited Korea and Japan. You were pretty, smart, and fun. You had a nice family. I was hooked.

You grew up in the Willard Beach section of South Portland. The beach was your playground. World War II made for exciting times with the forts, the shipyard, and the weekly launchings. You had five brothers and sisters to play with you. You were the third of six children born to Elmer G. and Ruth Gavett Kittredge. You were born on March 23, 1932. Did you know it was a Wednesday?

You graduated from South Portland High class of 1950 and worked two years before deciding on RN training. You later worked at Maine Medical Center as an assistant head nurse. We were married in 1957 and after our first child was born in 1959 you quit to raise our family. We found we had more common interests than expected; books, classical music, antiques, boats, swimming, travel and camping. You were an officer of Maine's first dive club. You made pre-dawn breakfasts for the gang when they came to the farm to go hunting. You took to cooking, gardening and canning food. Impressive. I hope I told you that along the way.

I was trying to start a business with no money. You helped there, too. You kept your part-time job. We needed the money. Soon the boys were old enough to help and it became a family business as it is today. You-worked right alongside of us doing almost every job as the company grew to six branches and scores of employees. As a corporate officer of K.L. Jack & Co, you mediated meetings and kept us all in line as only a mother can. We could not have done it without you. Customers still ask, "Where's Mary?" I wish I knew. Wherever you are I'm sure they like you. People, dogs, and flowers always responded well to you.

We did have some fun. Remember? Europe was nice but you liked Canada better especially New Foundland, Gaspe, and the Cabot Trail. When we took our sailboat, "Runaway", south for a few years that was the highlight of my travels. You liked the Bahamas the best, I think. Your favorite was our 12,000 mile RV trip to see the USA. I'm glad we got to do that. I am enclosing the picture I took in Zion Park near the waterfall. You were 74 then ..... still pretty, still sharp, still fun, and still fighting leukemia. If only we could do that trip one more time.

Mary, I have a nice lot-at Pine Grove in North Yarmouth. It's as pretty as a cemetery can be. My parents are there. They really liked you. My father said I was lucky. There is even room for our boys if they are-of a mind to join us someday. Not soon, I hope. Our sons Christopher (Chris) and Lawrence (Gus) Jack are not far away in Greater Portland as is our grandson Ryan Jack. For your sisters Joan Fine in Massachusetts and Claire Greer in Florida it's a bit far. It's handy for Patricia Powers in Cumberland and your brothers Steve and Scott Kittredge in South Portland. I know they will visit often and not forget you.

I will never forget you, and especially our last words. You were too weak to move and had not spoken for hours, and even then, so softly. I was sitting by your bed holding your hand. It was just before dawn and I was struggling to stay awake. Weakly, but very clearly, you said, "Kenneth." I stood and leaned over with my ear near you. You said, "I love you," and raised your head and kissed me on the cheek. I turned my head. Your eyes were open and you had a quirky smile on your face. I said, "I love you too, Mary. I always have and always will."

Your grateful husband,

Ken Jack

Oh, P.S. We are not going to have a service right now. We will do it in the spring when the flowers are out. It will be a better planned gathering of friends and family. By then we may all be able to smile once again. We'll let everyone know when & where and perhaps you can be there too, if only in spirit, and we'll all share our fond memories of you. There are so many.

To offer words of condolence to the family, sign a guest book and share memories, go to the obituary page at www.independentdeathcare.com

Published in Portland Press Herald/Maine Sunday Telegram on January 23, 2011

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Wordless Wednesday - Generations United


Mom and I at the gravesite of Isaac BOTKIN and Carolyn Minnear BOTKIN in Minnear Cemetery, La Fontaine, Indiana. 

Isaac and Carolyn are mom's great-great grandparents and my great-great-great grandparents.

Photo taken October 2010.  You can read the story of how we found Minnear Cemetery here.

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Tombstone Tuesday - Rebecca Ann Botkin Brane

Rebecca Ann Botkin BRANE
b: Dec 1857 in Wabash County, Indiana
d:  1925 in Wabash County, Indiana

Rebecca is the daugher of Isaac and Caroline Minnear BOTKIN.  On the 8 Sep 1880 she married William Henry BRANE in Wabash County, Indiana.  They were the parents of one daughter, Florence S. BRANE.

Rebecca is buried along with William and Florence in the LaFontaine IOOF Cemetery, LaFontaine, Indiana.  Her FAG memorial can be found here.

Monday, January 24, 2011

Military Monday - The Boys of the 69th Indiana Volunteer Infantry

Moses "Mode" D. Catey
b:  1837 in Indiana
d:  11 Mar 1866 in Wayne County, Indiana

Moses D. CATEY, oldest son of William B. and Sarah DAVIDSSON CATEY was born in 1837 in Indiana. 

Mode served in the civil war along with his brothers George and William Henry "Big Hank".  He enlisted in the 69th Indiana Volunteer Infantry, Company D on 18 Aug 1862.  Mode was discharged for disability on 6 Aug 1863.  He died 11 Mar 1866 at his Wayne County, Indiana home of consumption.

Mode is buried in Union Chapel Methodist Cemetery in Randolph County, Indiana. His FAG memorial can be found here.

Thursday, January 20, 2011

On This Day - January 20, 2011

James Morandaham BOTKIN was born on this day in 1856 in Pulaski, Kentucky, USA.  James is the oldest son of Moses Matson BOTKIN and Elizabeth GASTINEAU

On the 23 Nov 1876 he married Lucy Jane WEIBLE in Reynolds, Missouri.  Together they had 8 boys, 7 of whom lived to adulthood. 

James died on 7 Oct 1926 in Reynolds, Missouri at the age of 70.  His death certificate lists the cause as high blood pressure and old age.  He is buried in Lower Bee Fork Cemetery, Bunker, Reynolds, Missouri.  His FAG memorial can be found here

Thomas Allen BOTKIN was born on this day in 1820 in Virginia, USA.  He is the son of George BOTKIN.

On 16 Aug 1840. Thomas married Phebe CONNOR in Grant County, Indiana.  Together they had 8 children, 2 boys and 6 girls.

Thomas died on 19 Mar 1864 at the age of 44 in Grant County, Indiana.  His is buried in Prickett Cemetery, Jalapa, Grant, Indiana.  His FAG memorial can be found here

Harol David HADLEY was born on this day in 1893 in Morgan, Indiana, USA.  He is the husband of Nellie Myrtle BRANE

On 16 Feb 1916, Harol and Nellie were married in Wabash County, Indiana.  On the 15 Jul 1970 he died in Kokomo, Indiana and was buried in Park Lawn Cemetery, Amboy, Indiana.  His FAG memorial can be found here

Giles Parker HUNT was born on this day in 1843 in Randolph County, Indiana.  He is the husband of Elmira BOTKIN. 

On the 9 Aug 1862, Giles enlisted in the 69th Indiana Volunteer Infantry, Company D.  He mustered out 5 Jul 1865 in Mobile, Alabama.

On 1 Jan 1868 Giles and Elmira were married in Randolph County.  They were the parents of 5 children. 

Giles died on 31 Oct 1905 in Randolph County, Indiana.  His burial location is unknown.

Finally, on this day in 1854, my Great-Great Grandfather, George Washington STEPHENS was born in Wayne County, Indiana.  He is the son of William B. STEPHENS and Elizabeth Ann CONNETT. 

On the 10 Jul 1877 in Grant County, Indiana, he married Rebecca Jane Catherine BOLE.  Together they had 10 children before George died on 20 Jul 1898 at the age of 44 in Mills Township, Grant, Indiana. 

Grandpa George is buried in McKinney Lugar Creek Cemetery, Marion, Indiana.  His FAG memorial can be found here

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Monday, January 17, 2011

Military Monday - The Boys of the 69th Indiana Infantry

John and Joseph ALBRIGHT were brothers from Harrison, Indiana.  Sons of Isaiah and Sally STALEY ALBRIGHT, they enlisted as privates in Company I, 69th Indiana Infantry on 19 Aug 1862.  Both brothers survived the war, mustering out on 5 Jul 1865.

On 19 Jul 1869 in Henry County, Indiana, John married Mahala MCCORMICK. He was the father of seven and died 6 Jun 1926 at the age of 84 years, 8 months, 16 days. 

On the 27 Aug 1865 in Henry County, Indiana, Joseph married Theodate HENDRICKS.  Sadly, Joseph died on 9 Jul 1871 at the age of 28.

Both John and Joseph are buried in Hess Cemetery, Cadiz, Henry, Indiana.  Their memorials can be found here and here.

Thursday, January 13, 2011

On This Day - January 13th

Who says that the 13th is a bad day?  Four couples in my family tree chose the 13 January as their wedding day!

13 Jan 1826 James BOTKIN married Lucinda Cox in Indiana, USA.  They were the parents of five children, three girls and two boys.

13 Jan 1839 Allen C. SCOTT married Matilda JOHNSON in Grant County, Indiana. 

13 Jan 1876 Theodore Alonzo SUTTON married Addie L. STRAUGHN in Wabash County, Indiana. 

13 Jan 1908 Maude Helen HANLEY married William Leroy CARSON in Newark, Licking, OHIO.  They were the parents of two.

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Wordless Wednesday - Elsie Marie Brane

Born: 6 Dec 1905
Died: 26 Sep 1906

Elsie died at 9 months of age.  She was crawling on the floor, picked up a button and choked on it.  Her Find A Grave Memorial is here.

Tuesday, January 11, 2011

Tombstone Tuesday - Vernal Bowser

Vernal BOWSER was the second husband of my Great Grandmother, Mary Mamie HANLEY.

Born:  17 Aug 1886 in Paulding County, Ohio
Died:  11 Apr 1963 in Indiana
Burial:  Estates of Serenity Cemetery, Marion, Indiana

Father of Vernal BOWSER, Leo Patrick BOWSER, Mary Jane BOWSER and Virginia C. BOWSER.


Monday, January 10, 2011

Military Monday - The Boys of the 69th Indiana Infantry

After realizing my ancestors served in the 69th Indiana Infantry, I've before a bit obsessed with tracking down and learning the stories of all the boys of the 69th.  This is the story of Isaac ALGER.


(Photo courtesy of Charles Gannon, FAG volunteer)

Isaac was born in 1838 in Virginia.  He mustered in to the 69th Indiana Infantry, Company H as a private on 19 Aug 1862. 

On 24 Nov 1863 Isaac was wounded in battle.  He was discharged due to his wounds.

On 12 Oct 1867 in Henry County, Indiana, Isaac married Mary MATHEWS.  They remained in Henry  County, Indiana but I don't believe they had children of their own.

On 18 Mar 1894, at about the age of 56, Isaac died.  He is buried in Painter Cemetery in Middletown, Indiana.  Isaac's memorial at Find A Grave can be found here.

Saturday, January 8, 2011

Saturday Night Genealogy Fun - What Are They Searching For?

Randy Seaver of Genea-Musings using gives us another "Saturday Night Genealogy Fun" challenge. This week's challenge is :

1) Go to your Blog Statistics website (e.g., StatCounter, Google Analytics, etc.) and find the page for "Keyword Searches" done on your blog.

2) Tell us some of the funniest or most interesting keyword searches and your reaction to them. Write your own blog post or put them in a comment to this post, or in a comment or status on Facebook.
I only had one really weird keyword search:

Graveyard superstitions in England - I'm assuming they were sent to my post on August 20, 2010 - Cemetery Superstitions.  Hope they found what they were looking for!

I'm excited to see the keyword search 69th Indiana Infantry!  I'd love to connect with others who  are interested in the boys from the 69th.  Sure wish they would have contacted me or left a comment......

Thank you to Randy for suggesting this fun challenge! I've never visited this part of my blog before, in fact, I had to really search around to find the Keyword Searches. This is definitely an area I will be keeping an eye on!

Friday, January 7, 2011

Follow Friday - Genealogy Star

I chose Genealogy Star as my Follow Friday blog after reading the posting James made on January 5th, Send your parents (or yourself) a Tech Support care package!

As everyone who follows Genealogy Star knows, James dispenses a wealth of information on almost a daily basis.  This particular post I find so exciting!  It's all about a Google initiated website called Teach Parents Tech.  When you go to the site you can fill out a very simple form and send short video clips to your technically challenged parents (or yourself) about various tech subjects.

Most videos are no longer than one minute and cover a variety of topics including:

How to Copy and Paste
How to Make a Screenshot
How to Make a Blog
How to Shorten a Long URL
How to Check Your Spelling
How to Chat Online
How to Create an Email Signature
How to Resize a Picture
How to Transfer Files Between Computers

I could go on and on but you get the idea!  There are 52 videos in all so sending just one a week will help those who are tech challenged without overwhelming them. 

Head over to Teach Parents Technology now to begin sending those videos.  And, if you don't already, be sure to sign up to follow the postings at Genealogy Star.  James has a fantastic blog!

Thursday, January 6, 2011

On This Day.....

6 Jan 1831 - 180 years ago, Nathan GARRISON, son of Jeremiah GARRISON and Rebecca MCDANIEL, husband of Mary G. BOTKIN, was born in Wabash County, Indiana.  Nathan was the father of six children.  He died 20 Apr 1908 in Wabash County and is buried in Harper Cemetery in La Fontaine, Indiana.  His FAG memorial can be found here.

6 Jan 1851 - 160 years ago, Catherine Elizabeth BRANE, daughter of Abraham BRANE and Nancy HOFFMAN, wife of Arthur MCCLAINE, was born.  Catherine was the mother of one child and died 24 Feb 1879 at the age of 28.  She is buried in Center Grove Cemetery, Lincolnville, Indiana.  Her FAG memorial can be found here.

6 Jan 1888 - 123 years ago, Bruce BRANE, son of Milton Samuel BRANE and Anna Elizabeth THOMAS, husband of Mary Elizabeth DOTY was born in Wabash County, Indiana.  Bruce was the father of three children and died Jul 1968 in Zephyrhills, Florida at the age of 80. 

6 Jan 1939 - My uncle Bob Stephens was born South Bend, Indiana.  Happy 72nd birthday, uncle Bob!

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

Tombstone Tuesday - Mary Mamie Hanley Stephens Bowser

Great - Grandma

Estates of Serenity Cemetery
Marion, Grant, Indiana

Mamie married Ora Everett STEPHENS on 6 Feb 1934.  Ora died 22 Dec 1929.  Their children are:

Gertrude J. STEPHENS

Mamie married Vernal BOWSER and their children are:

Virginia C. BOWSER




Monday, January 3, 2011

Military Monday - Botkin Soldiers - Ohio

Those BOTKINS sure where a prolific bunch!  I've posted about the Union soldiers in Indiana and the Confederate BOTKINS in Virginia and now the BOTKIN soldiers from Ohio.  In particular one BOTKIN family that sent six sons off to war.

Abraham BOTKIN and Sarah "Sallie" WILKINSON BOTKIN were the parents of ten children, seven boys, two girls and one infant.  When the Civil War broke out, six of the seven boys were still living and all six of them volunteered to serve.

Here are their stories:

George Walter BOTKIN was 29 years old when he enlisted in the 1st Infantry Kentucky, Company C.  He mustered in 8 Jun 1861 and mustered out 18 Jun 1864.  He married Sidney C. BAKER the 28 Jul 1864.  He and Sidney moved to Kansas where he died 8 Jan 1892.  George is buried in Hutchinson Eastside Cemetery in Hutchinson, Kansas.  His FAG memorial can be found here.

William J. BOTKIN was 27 years old when he enlisted in the 45th Ohio Infantry, Company F.  He mustered in 18 Aug 1862.  On 15 Nov 1863 William was taken prisoner at Holston River, TN.  He was held at Andersonville Prison in Georgia.  He died there on 15 Jun 1864 of anasarca.  He was 29 years old and the father of two young children. His FAG memorial can be found here.

Wallace BOTKIN was 25 years old when he enlisted in the 45th Ohio Infantry, Company K.  He mustered in 19 Aug 1862.  He was promoted to full Corporal on 27 Jan 1864.  He died on 17 Dec 1864 from wounds he received in battle at Richmond, TN.  He is buried in the Nashville National Cemetery.  His FAG memorial can be found here.

Granville Moody BOTKIN was 24 years old when he enlisted in the 146th Ohio Infantry, Company I.  He mustered in 2 May 1864 and mustered out 7 Sep 1864.  Granville died on 24 Oct 1928 in Mechanicsburg, OH at the age of 88.  His FAG memorial can be found here.

Joseph Bruce BOTKIN was 19 years old when he enlisted in the 44th Ohio Infantry, Company F.  He was transferred into the 8th Cavalry Infantry, Company F on 4 Jan 1864.  He mustered out on 30 Jul 1865.  Joseph moved to Missouri where he eventually became mayor of the city of Mexico, MO.  He died on 31 Dec 1929.  Burial location is unknown.

Youngest brother Lycurgus BOTKIN was 20 years old when he enlisted in the 178th Ohio Infantry, Company B.  He mustered in 22 Sep 1864 and mustered out 3 Jul 1865 in Washington, DC.  In Jul of 1866 Lycurgus married Mary SHEEHAN and was the father of at least 4 children.  Lycurgus and Mary moved to Missouri where he died 11 Mar 1927.  He is buried in Centralia Cemetery in Centralia, MO.  His FAG memorial can be found here.

Six sons.  One left for war in 1861, two left in 1862 and three left in 1864.  4 returned.  I can't imagine the mothers sorrow.

Saturday, January 1, 2011

January 2011 Goals

It's the first day of a new year, the perfect time for setting goals! 

One of my 11 goals for 2011 included posting monthly genealogy goals.  These are the ones I have set for January.  I'm keeping it simple here in order to keep goal #11 which is to relax and enjoy!

1.  Finish scanning the pile of papers sitting on the floor by my bed.  I'm 3/4 of the way done, I just have to take it into the home stretch!


2.  Leave a comment on, at least, 5 blog posts each day.  I appreciate each and every comment I receive on this blog and want to be sure I am returning the favor.  I'm inspired by genealogy blog postings everyday....I just need to say so.
3.  Begin organizing my genealogy files for the new file cabinet.  I was tempted to say complete this process but I know once I begin digging into some of those files I will get sidetracked.  A little genealogy ADD will probably set in.  It's a little disorder which I suffer from, from time to time! 

That's it.  Just 3 goals.  Can I meet them?  Like the little engine......I think I can, I think I can, I think I can.......